Flirting in the Digital Age - 5 Tips For Flirting Online
It's no secret flirting and dating has changed a lot since when your grandparents used to do it. In those days you wrote a note and asked a friend to pass it on, or sent some flowers.
In today's world, the notes have been replaced with texts and the flowers with emoticons of... well, flowers. But most of us still feel lost. Luckily for you, you're reading this article, which will help you navigate the online flirting world. So keep on reading to find out exactly how you can "get the girl" with online flirting.
Think Before You Send
You have probably heard the expression "Think before you speak", well this counts for online flirting as well. But unlike in real life where thinking too long before you say something and creating awkward silences, flirting online allows you to plan your responses way better. If you don't know what to say, you can google witty replies or perfect your message so that it has maximum impact. Don't even worry about waiting too long to reply. This creates a little mystery and suspense, which brings us to our next point.
Don't Be Too Available
You don't always have to reply immediately to every message that you receive. If you are too available, not only will you look desperate, but it will look as if you don't have anything going on in your life either.
(Instead of pretending, why not actually start being busy and actually make your life more interesting as well?) Don't be weird about it though. Try it when she messages you first. Or after you have been chatting for a while, say that you have stuff to do and you will message her later. This will create a little a mystery, and prevent that she get's bored with you.
The Controversial Topic of Emoticons
You will find a lot of different opinions on using emoticons. Some say using emoticons come across as immature and unmanly, while others say use emoticons in every message to convey a playful vibe. Our advice? Find the middle ground. Sometimes you just need to use that ;) or that :P to show her that you're only teasing her. Which leads us to…..
Teasing is the most valuable tool in your arsenal when it comes to flirting. It shows that you are confident and don't take the world too seriously. The best advice I have ever received on teasing is to imagine the girl you are talking to is your little sister. Trust me. It sounds weird at first, but once you try it, you will be amazed how good it works.
If you have read any pickup artist stuff in your life before, you have probably heard NOT to compliment a girl. If you ask me I say baloney. Have you ever felt less attracted to a girl after she compliments you? Ofcourse not! The main problem arises of bad thought out compliments. Stay away from general compliments like "You're beautiful", and rather concentrate on what makes her beautiful. This can be her hair, smile, eyes or even her wonderful conversational skills. If you don't compliment her, and only keep on teasing, you have a oneway ticket to Friendzoneville.
Don't try to flirt online for too long. It might be easier, but nothing beats that one on one, face to face interactions. After you have been flirting online for a while, make sure you ask her out on a date. You might find other tips on the internet as well, but this all you really need. To recap, plan your messages, create a little mystery, use emoticons to your advantage, tease her a little and last but not least, compliment her to convey your interest. Let me know how your online flirting goes.